the other day i finally met my friend lynn!
my brother had put us in touch with each other because we have the unfortunate cancer camaraderie. we've been emailing for the last 8 months but had never met. and this week, lynn came to sf to visit a few friends and ME. it was great, great, great to meet her. we spent all this time walking in the marin headlands. we compared hair growth and our scars, chatted it up about eating and planning our lives after cancer. it was especially nice because we spent a lot of time with lynn's friend willie who, unfortunately, is going through chemo right now. willie joined us at the table for our cancer support group. i really haven't spent that much time with people who've gone through cancer. and it was really nice (as well as a bit depressing) to all have shared experiences - of shivering at the bad taste of water during chemo, of losing our hair identity, of the nausea and the exhaustion, etc.
it was lovely to hang out. and it reinforced my feelings of frustration; why are so many people getting *@!*# cancer????
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You've posed the question of the day, Meg..why why why? Awfully hard to reconcile, whether we are personal victims or ancillary ones. Just have to do our best, move on, and wear clean underwear...OH NO! that's in case you get in an accident.
Good news about wiglessness..your confidence should have a big boost, which will open the job doors a bit wider. Good work, Lovey.
Susang
Meghan, you don't EVER need to wear a wig again. You are scrumptiously gorgeous in your natural beauty!!! And how great you got to meet and spend time with fellow survivors - not a club people are flocking to join, but a very special one for its members. As for your "question of the day" as Susan so rightly puts it, I've not found an answer worth adopting...I sometimes get tired of hearing folks say we bring it on due to lifestyle or inner stress; I have raged, at times, when told that "attitude" invites it into our lives...I do not believe that we should, for ONE moment, blame ourselves...there is something organic taking place and I just don't know what or why. the environment is a scary place at times, and even if we do all we can to make it the best we can in our own lifes, still cancer appears. All I know is you are a beautiful human being, you were visited by this uninvited guest, it has finally left, and you're on your way to what's next. You are a role model, a brave woman, and I admire how you have handled your past 8 months................
forgive all the typos - my fingers flew too fast!
As Susan says, that "why" question is haunting...but the good news is that you are finding a way to grapple and cope, and move on in a healthy and positive way.
Glad you have great people around you to help you do so...
Lots of love
erica
Ummm.....hello? Beautiful? Your hair?
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